At Nan’s School of Dance, we believe that dance should build children up, not break them down. As a dance mom, your role in shaping your child’s experience goes far beyond getting them to class and cheering from the wings. You are your child’s strongest advocate, biggest fan, and emotional anchor.
In today’s world, dance is not just performed in studios or on stages, it’s posted, streamed, liked, and commented on. Social media has introduced a new layer of visibility and vulnerability, and while it can be inspiring and empowering, it can also become a source of anxiety, comparison, and self-doubt.
Let’s talk about how you can help your dancer protect and preserve their self-image, both in the mirror and online.
Understand the Double-Edged Sword of Social Media
Instagram and TikTok have become major platforms in the dance world. They allow dancers to share their growth, creativity, and accomplishments—and connect with a global community. However, these platforms can also expose children to unfiltered criticism, unrealistic beauty standards, and endless comparison.
Your dancer may begin to equate likes with value, followers with talent, and visibility with worth. This is where they need a parent. Keep an open dialogue about social media. Ask your child how it makes them feel. Monitor their accounts in an age-appropriate way—not to control, but to protect. Talk about the difference between real life and social media and help them understand that what they see online isn’t always the whole story.
Encourage a Healthy Relationship With Feedback
One of the most valuable lessons dance teaches is how to receive feedback with grace and growth in mind. But online comments are not always the same as constructive critique. They are often impulsive, uninformed, and unfortunately, sometimes cruel. This kind of feedback can hit hard—especially when it comes from strangers.
Help your child separate personal identity from performance. A tough correction in class doesn’t mean they’re failing, it means their teachers believe in their potential.
Make Self-Worth About More Than Applause
In a competitive environment like dance, it’s easy for kids to tie their self-worth to placement, casting, or the number of claps they receive. But the true magic of dance is in expression, connection, and joy.
If a dancer only feels valuable when they’re winning or being noticed, they can start to lose the love for dance itself. Celebrate effort over outcome. Did they push through a tough class? Did they show kindness backstage? These moments matter most. Avoid comparing your child to others, even unintentionally. Instead of saying “you were the best one up there,” try “I loved watching you! You looked like you were having so much fun.” They are more than a dancer.
Foster a Resilient Mindset
Dance is hard. There will be disappointments, missed opportunities, and off-days. What helps a dancer rise isn’t perfection, it’s resilience. As a parent, you have the power to help your child build this mental strength.
Validate their emotions. If they’re upset about not getting the part, let them feel it. Then gently guide them toward perspective. Share stories of your own setbacks and how you overcame them. That connection matters.
Help Them Love the Dancer in the Mirror
Your child’s relationship with their body and self-image often begins in the studio. Leotards, mirrors, and comparison can amplify insecurities. Add filters and online trends into the mix, and it’s easy to see why body image issues are a growing concern in young dancers. Speak positively about your own body and theirs. They’re listening, even when you don’t think they are.
A Heart-to-Heart Goes a Long Way
Sometimes, the most powerful thing you can do is sit down and say:
“I see how hard you’re working. I’m proud of the person you are, not just the dancer you are becoming.” Let your child know that they are loved unconditionally. That no comment, critique, or casting decision can ever shake that. Create a home environment where their self-image is nourished daily, through love, respect, patience, and joy.
Let’s Raise Stronger Dancers Together
Dance will challenge your child in ways you never imagined, and that’s a good thing. With your guidance, it can also grow them in beautiful, meaningful ways. By nurturing their self-image, you’re giving them more than a foundation in dance. You’re giving them a foundation for life.
At Nan’s School of Dance, we’re honored to be part of your child’s journey and yours. Together, let’s raise dancers who not only move with grace, but live with it, too.
Reach Your Goals With Nan’s Dance!
At Nan’s School of Dance, our goal is to provide top-quality instruction at a competitive price. We encourage our students to reach technical proficiency in their favorite dance form and build self-discipline, poise, and self-esteem. We offer instruction in Ballet, Tap, Jazz, Contemporary, Hip Hop, Acro, and Pre-Dance, at all levels.
We love having new members in our dance classes and will help get your child acclimated to our dance school to make them feel right at home. When your child attends Nan’s School of Dance, they will become a part of our dance family and share in our love for dance!
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From ballet to hip hop, we offer dance classes for ALL ages and skill levels in a variety of styles. We place students in classes that will challenge them while offering a fun atmosphere for learning and growth. We also offer Mommy & Me classes, (18 months – 2.5 years). Register online or give us a call at 919-803-6044 to hold your spot!
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